The holiday season can be the most wonderful time of year for those who love getting into the spirit.
Still, this time isn’t merry and bright for everyone. Some may be lonely or depressed if they can’t be with family. Others may be clinging to memories of those who’ve passed and missing them dearly. And then there are those stressed by the demands of cooking, shopping and hosting.
The pandemic has brought its own set of holiday worries. Are you disappointed that another holiday season doesn’t resemble years past or have social anxiety about suddenly attending social gatherings and events?. Another important note: people handle COVID-19 protocols differently, which may create tension within families about the use of masks and getting a vaccine.
Whatever emotions you’re dealing with, these tips can help you enjoy the holidays more than you thought possible.
Maintain A Routine
Stick to your daily rituals. Eat, exercise and sleep as you normally do. “Self-care and self-compassion is vital,” says Derek G. Turesky, a licensed psychologist who practices in Boca Raton. “Before you can be there for others, you must be there for yourself.”
Keep It Real
The holidays aren’t like in the movies. Ditch that idealized version; otherwise, you may be disappointed when they don’t fulfill your expectations. “Ideals of the ‘perfect’ holiday are made up narratives that don’t exist in reality,” says Turesky. “Letting go of these expectations can be liberating and allow you to fully engage in the experience that is unfolding in the here and now.”
Be Kind To Yourself
Don’t guilt yourself into feeling something you’re not. It’s okay if you’re unhappy this time of year. “Give yourself permission to feel what you feel,” he says. “There is no ‘correct’ way to experience this time of year.” Cut yourself some slack.
Practice Moderation
It’s easy to have one cookie here and one drink there. Still, the holidays shouldn’t be a free-for-all where you abandon healthy habits. “If you do overindulge, recognize it, let go of self-critical thoughts and return to the path of your healthy lifestyle,” he says.
Just Say No
Decline an invite to the neighbor’s gift swap or don’t offer to purchase the teacher’s gift. It’s your holiday, too. “Set healthy boundaries with your time, energy and resources,” says Turesky. You’ll only feel drained and resentful by overdoing it.