Suicide is something nobody wants to talk about.
However, you may save a life by knowing its warning signs. People with support from friends and family and who have access to mental health services are less likely to act on suicidal impulses than those who are isolated.
“Family members and friends are keys to providing support to anyone who is demonstrating suicidal thoughts or behavior,” says Julia Breur, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and family therapist with a private clinical psychotherapy practice in Boca Raton.
So, in honor of September being National Suicide Prevention Month, here are signs to look for.
They withdraw from their social life.
No matter their age, it’s suspicious if someone abruptly loses interest in activities they previously enjoyed. Kids like to be around their friends. Be concerned if they aren’t hanging out with them. Adults withdrawing from friends and family could be a red flag. They don’t want to burden others or let others see them struggle, so they isolate. “Keeping to oneself when struggling, especially when it’s unaddressed, only increases risk for suicide,” says Dr. Breur.
They don’t care how they look.
A person contemplating suicide might suddenly neglect their appearance and hygiene. Since they’re just trying to get through the day, such considerations aren’t a priority. They’re too miserable to care, but such behavior may also be a cry for help, she says.
They fixate on the idea of death.
Check if they’re expressing thoughts about suicide via artwork, journals, social media or some other outlet. They may be researching suicide online or asking where to buy a gun. “A common yet highly inaccurate belief is that people who survive a suicide attempt are unlikely to try again,” says Dr. Breur. “In fact, within the first three months to a year following a suicide attempt, people are at highest risk for another attempt.”
Know how to react to these signs.
“Responding to someone in distress can be intimidating, but it’s important,” she says. “Don’t ignore warning signs because you’re unsure what to do. Take action.” Don’t leave the person alone. Take away sharp objects or weapons they might use to self-harm, and seek professional help. O