A Worthy Life Lesson

We’re all short on time and hold a mile-long to-do list this time of year. Still, it’s important to remember to be thankful for everything we have. And it’s especially crucial to teach kids about gratitude, too.

Teaching gratitude to kids doesn’t have to be time-consuming to make a difference. The smallest actions can go a long way. “Teaching children gratitude gives them a sense of power and mastery in the world, that they have something wonderful to give to others,” says Karen Deerwester, owner of Family Time Coaching & Consulting in Boca Raton, director of Family Time classes at B’nai Torah Congregation of Boca Raton and author of “The Entitlement-Free Child.” “The belief that ‘I have much to share’ helps children become resourceful and capable rather than small and helpless.” We can all benefit from gratitude. “It’s another way of being seen, heard, loved,” she says. “It’s what everyone wants at every age.”

Here are a few ways to teach kids gratitude during the holiday season.

Discuss What You’re Grateful For

I need the newest iPhone — now! Sound familiar? Many kids may be guilty of complaining that everyone else has something they don’t. Teach children to appreciate what they have. “Incorporate gratitude into daily routines,” Deerwester says. Adapt acts to children’s ages. “Starting young helps children learn to express kindness to others.” Begin with “Thank you for helping me carry that” or “Thanks for sharing your cookie with me,” she says. Preschoolers — and parents — can say thanks for one thing at night, mealtime or while going to and from school. School-age kids can send a note to someone they admire.

Set A Positive Example

Be a good role model. Encourage kids to be do-gooders; most won’t be altruistic on their own. “Children learn what they live,” Deerwester says. “They absorb parent emotions and attitudes.” Take your daughter with you when you drop off clothing at the Salvation Army. Purchase food together that can be served at Thanksgiving dinner at the local shelter.

Make A Difference

Collect canned goods and other nonperishable items and donate them to a food bank. Draw pictures and bring them to a senior citizen center or hospital. Take towels to a dog shelter. Set up a lemonade stand and donate proceeds to your favorite cause. Kids get to be active participants in doing good for others. Deerwester says, “Look for ways to be a helper and don’t be afraid of seeing the needs of others.”